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By: Building relationships part 3- People Research Connections

Building relationships part 3- People Research Connections — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 17:13:59 +0000

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By: Mihaela

Mihaela — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 14:47:26 +0000

Deb, that’s very true. You cannot know when you got attention – but you can know when you give attention, and let others know that they have your attention. That’s how relationships are built. That’s what the question is about. We are all hungry for getting attention. I invite everybody, myself included, to focus on the ways we give this thing that everybody wants

By: Deb Mallett

Deb Mallett — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 02:21:26 +0000

I agree, Mihaela – attention is key in relationships. One thing that’s different in Twitter is that you can’t look people in the eye to know if you even have their attention.

So it’s hit and miss whether they even see your tweet. But the more you tweet, the more you will eventually hit home and the relationships start to build. I’m just learning this.

By: Mihaela

Mihaela — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 05:21:09 +0000

Bill, you’re right – many things are fundamentally the same, but technology has changed the little ways (tactics) in which we manifest the same fundamental phenomena.

I’ve been thinking about my own question and realize I didn’t answer it myself. So, here is one way in which I try to give warmth and attention on Twitter: I listen for the emotion underlying some tweets, and whenever I can, I provide emotional support. If someone is frustrated, I try to remind them to take deep breath. If someone is feeling guilty about taking time to rest, I try to remind them that they need and deserve it, etc. Replying to people, making them feel noticed and acknowledging their feelings are my little ways to give attention.

By: Bill Sledzik

Bill Sledzik — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:54:23 +0000

This is the first time I’ve seen “Twitter” and “Dale Carnegie” used in the same sentence. And it makes so much sense. What Mr. Carnegie taught us in his little book — back in 1936 — is to listen actively and respond sincerely. He showed the world “How to Win Friends and Influence People.”

Technology has changed a lot of things, but relationships are still fundamentally the same. I show people I’m interested in them by linking others to their work. And I try to mix in a little humor about every third tweet. People love to smile.

By: Building Relationships part 1- People Research Connections

Building Relationships part 1- People Research Connections — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 15:13:53 +0000

[...] Apply Dale Carnegie’s ideas to building social capital on Twitter [...]